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Question: Can't reach female orgasm anymore?

(Posted by: missingpeak13 on 2009-02-24 15:29:38)

I am 28, have had orgasms easily the last 8 years or so. But no longer able to? I've masturbated, and been with my partner, either way, if I actually reach orgasm, sometimes it may take 45 minutes, when I used to within 5- 10 minutes. I am not on any meds to cause this by side effects. I have been under heavier stress than usual, but not sure if that could cause this. I am VERY attracted to my partner, and very in love, so it boggles me why I can't reach orgasm. I know relaxing and not worrying about it is good, and I have tried that. But it is getting frustrating. Are there meds for females having this problem.

Posted by: LoveAlways on 2009-02-24, 15:36:21

Stress can cause it (maybe get your partner start off with a nice massage! Ooo) Also focusing on trying to get an orgasm can stop you from doing so That's one of the biggest problems for females in the bedroom, we cant seem to turn our brains off! We are so good at multitasking we cant seem to turn it off. Next time your going to have sex, dont think! Just focus on the feelings your getting. If you start to analyze the situation, tell yourself NO! Let yourself get carried away... see where it takes you! I hear having a clean bedroom can help too, that way you dont look around and be like Ugh look at this mess I've got to sort out. Your problem with masturbation, I cant help you with. lol I dont often reach orgasm with masturabtion. It's like trying to tickle yourself, it just cant be done!

Posted by: michelley_27 on 2009-02-24, 15:36:39

The stress can cause this and yes, relaxing can help. have a bath, listen to your favourite music... maybe have a bath with your partner! stressing over it on top of the stress you are experiencing is just making it harder for you. take lots of time with your partner to have fun and lots of foreplay :P

Posted by: Drink Water on 2009-02-24, 15:36:45

I would recommend you see a sex therapist or someone thats a professional in the field.

Posted by: jack w on 2009-02-25, 15:51:52

Get me in the bed with you :) youll reach it